The Not-So-Secret Secret To Success
It has been a week.
It has been a month.
It has been a quarter.
And I'm feeling it, y’all.
My two-and-a-half year old daughter was diagnosed with lead poisoning and - spoiler alert - it was a false positive and we're okay, but I had a week and a half of utter despair.
I mean, I was on my knees.
We spent every second in turmoil testing everything from our silverware to our paint to ourselves while researching and finding a specialist to help us figure out what we needed to do.
Then, on the day I had the Mom Club live preview (the biggest lol because it was such a big day), we got the call that it was a false positive. My daughter had zero lead in her blood - which is the most incredible miracle - but we were in a full blown all-hands-on-deck situation.
I'm sharing this story in real time from my real life to show you that I'm human.
That we’re all human.
It’s such an easy thing to forget in a world where we idealize people on Instagram and only see their highlight reels. A world where we jump on and see, “10k/week! 10k/month!” kind of captions (and that's great - I love a 10k/week, 10k/month!), and so easily jump to assumptions.
Well, they've obviously slept really well.
Well, their kid hasn't been in the hospital.
Well, this and this hasn't happened to them.
But what ends up happening is we other them and other ourselves.
We other successful people by believing they’re something we aren’t or have something we don’t. We think the people making bank are more organized or have the inside scoop on something we’re missing.
We create a huge chasm between
who they are,
what they have,
what is possible for them
and
who we are,
what we have and
what is possible for us.
Then we stand beneath them or behind them with this false story about what it takes to be successful and why we can’t be.
What I need you to know is the difference between success being embodied and success being elusive is the ability to show up as fully and unapologetically human.
That’s the trick - the whole magic secret of success - and it’s why I’m telling you what’s really been going on behind the scenes with my family.
Because I’m human!
Because I’m still here!
Because I keep showing up no matter what!
Am I still running a successful business?
Yes!
Am I doing it perfectly?
Fuck no!
But done is better than perfect and part of my purpose is to dispel the rumor that successful people are any different than anyone else when they aren’t.
They’re just showing up
no matter what.
They’re allowing themselves to be fully human
no matter what.
They’re honest about their human fucking experience of life
no matter what.
It's not that their kids are always sleeping through the night.
It’s not that they're family isn’t in the hospital.
It's not that these things aren't happening.
They’ve just decided on their no matter what and stayed the course through the chaos and insanity of it.
Yes, there are seasons when we’re in an absolute crisis, right?
That is an exception. Please let it be an exception.
But this truth still stands in every season, and it’s what I speak into every incredible woman and creative in Mom Club, in my Mastermind and in my community birthing and running a business:
ALLOWING YOURSELF TO BE FULLY HUMAN IS THE FIRST STEP TO TRULY BELIEVING IN YOURSELF.
It is the key you’ve been looking for,
that you thought only other people had,
that you assumed was hard to find.
It’s been with you and in you this whole time, and finding and taking hold of it starts with changing the stories we speak. It starts with an awareness of the gap we create by othering ourselves and others. It starts with being wholly human and acknowledging the enoughness inherent within us.
What I want you to do right now is take a scan of your stories.
Look at how you’re othering yourself and how that’s disallowing you from showing up as fully human.
Do you keep reading the perfectionist’s script of, “I'm not ready yet” or “I'm going to revise, revise, revise and then I'm going to do the thing”?
Are you constantly promising yourself, “Once my business profits just a little bit more, then I’ll hire support, then I’ll get a virtual assistant, then I’ll _________”?
Will you finally be successful when you know enough, post enough or are worth enough to raise your rates, apply for that job or launch that idea you’ve been sitting on?
We’ve all been there, but the ones that have worked past these stories had to draw a line in the sand at some breaking point and say,
I am enough.
I know enough.
I have enough.
I can show up on the day my toddler wakes up four times a night for 90 minutes a pop.
I can show up on the day my kid gets a negative test for lead poisoning.
I can show up when a diagnosis turns my world completely upside down.
I can show up because I am enough in my full human condition no matter what and that is what makes me successful.
That’s the mojo.
That's the juice.
That's the propeller in the magic of your biz.
Knowing you are human and that you can do the damn thing.
I dare you to.
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